How we were brought up is crucial when dealing with situations in the workplace. In this article, we look at four different styles and how they influence work in the office.
First of all, the anxious style. With every email that comes in, you fear that it’s a complaint and every time your boss doesn’t answer your question directly or has no time, you fear that he or she is already looking for a replacement. The best way to respond to this is to stay positive. The chance that your boss is already looking for a replacement is very small. Not every mail from a customer is a complaint either. Are you afraid of this? Then agree with yourself that you won’t read your mail once you have left the office.
The so-called ‘disdainful avoider’ is a person who thinks he or she is the smartest, while others are not as smart. Other ideas are listened to, but little is done with them. Although this is difficult to change, because the person thinks he or she is the smartest of all, you can try to substantiate your own idea with good arguments. If this bothers you, then you are probably someone who wants to do a lot yourself. Let others do something too. Not only do you save yourself valuable time, but they also have the chance to develop themselves.
A fearful avoider is precisely a person who thinks he is not suitable for the tasks that need to be done. This person does not have the confidence to initiate changes or start large projects. First and foremost, this person needs to be motivated and encouraged to successfully complete the tasks that need to be done. Secondly, small and simple goals need to be set in order to further build trust.
A steadfast person often uses a certain style. He or she knows what needs to be done and makes his or her own decisions about priorities. If you have questions, you ask them. If you don’t have time for a project, you dare to indicate that to your manager.